Hello everyone. I couldn’t think of a better way to wrap up our 31 Days of Living Solefully then by featuring one of the coolest, most courageous, and talented writers I know… Miss Maria.
Name: Maria, age 44 is married to her best friend Marc and has two fantastic children. A little girl age 5 and handsome boy age 9. Maria is a mom, wife, freelance writer, blogger extraordinaire! and breast cancer survivor. Let’s meet Maria our featured Sole Momma!
2. What was the course of treatment? Treatment was lumpectomy (2) The first one didn’t result in clean margins — cancer was still there — and they had to go back in for the rest. Then 8 weeks of radiation therapy. No chemo. No hormones either as I wanted to have kiddos.
3. How does the threat of recurrence affect your life? It’s been 14 years since my diagnosis. To say that I don’t think about breast cancer everyday would be a lie. It’s so prevalent. It took my father in 1989, and affected to many people in my family and my life. Just in our little town alone, I have met 7 women who are survivors and just found out another woman I know was diagnosed. Every year for my annual screening I am an internally emotional wreck. It just is what it is. I have had many biopsies since then — once you had cancer, there is no more “let’s wait and see.”
4. What are the positives you have taken from having breast cancer? What has it taught you about life moving forward? Since I came out as a survivor at my 10 year mark, I feel like I have empowered others to take hold of their own breast health. I did several Avon Walks (one with my friend Deana here!) which was amazing. I organized a local chapter of a club for high school girls called the Pink Ribbon Club that promotes BCA in the younger set ( it’s now defunct unfortunately). I have organized some breast cancer awareness events locally and spoken to some girl’s sports teams about it. I am really lucky, that I know. Mine was caught VERY early and I am a firm believer in early detection. I balk at the reports stating mammos are unnecessary until women are in their 50s. 40 is a good time and earlier if you have a family history. And if you have dense breasts (which many younger women do) then know that too and get yourself additional screening in the form of ultrasound or MRI. It’s law in CT and other places too that your MD tell you whether your breasts are full of dense tissue — the same color as cancer on a mammogram.
5. If you could share one thing about surviving breast cancer to other woman what would it be? One thing I would like all women to do is take control of their breast health. They are YOURS! Know them and know your risk factors. Exercise and eat right and don’t ignore any change in your breast. I would rather have 5 negative biopsies because I was dilligent than one positive one because I was afraid. Wouldn’t you?
6. Lastly…What are your favorite pair of shoes and why…wouldn’t be a sole momma feature with out this question. Okay, Deana wanted me to share my favorite pair of shoes for Soles of A Mom. Let me just say I live vicariously through Deana and her fashion choices. I just might have high fashion in me somewhere, I just haven’t unearthed it yet!! So I just sigh with envy at what Deana can pull off and what I am too set in my comfortable ways to attempt. So, sadly, my favorite pair of shoes would probably be my Skechers or a pair of very comfortable Aerosoles loafers. (Deana used to have the same pair I believe so perhaps I am on the right track after all!)
Thanks Deana!! Your blog is awesome and thanks for letting me share very important BC information with your readers!!
If you want to learn more about breast cancer you can visit The National Breast Cancer Foundation. To learn more about Maria visit her blog This Mom is Always Write.
Thanks Maria, your an amazing sole momma & friend!