Think it’s important to make time for yourself and your husband. No you don’t have to grab a babysitter and get all gussied up, although that is fun too sometimes. But lets face it that’s expensive! A date night to dinner and a movie may cost $75 add-on a baby sitter for 3 kids for 5 hours and you just added $50. I mean we don’t all have the means to spend $125 each week on a date night.
However having spending quality time with your husband is and should be a priority. Remember the two of you were here first, as a couple. Your children joined your relationship, not the other way around. The two of you will be still standing after the kids move out. So keep that relationship flame burning.
My mom and dad have been together for over 40 years. One incredible gift they taught me was that marriages take work. I remember every Saturday night my parents would banish us to our rooms at 7pm. As we were older we didn’t have to go to bed, but we had to stay in there. It was adult time. My mom would put together snacks like cheese and crackers, veggies and dip. They would buy a steak, and make whiskey sours in the blender, that they poured into high ball glasses and that was their date night.
Forward to today or last night rather. Fridays is usually our date night. Instead of steak and whiskey sours I like wine, cheese and heavy apps. I try to have it all out on the counter by 6 when Greg comes home. That sets the tone for the evening. The kids get some type of quickie dinner treat. Last night it was pigs in a blanket! Whoo Hoo! I remember for me growing up it was a TV dinner with one of those chocolate baked desserts in it.
Last night our date night was different than my parents, but the intention is the same. Feed your relationships. Nuture them. Make time for yourselves. Marriage takes thoughtful work, but the rewards are sweet! I hope you too can create your own personal date nights.